Porn For Women Has Always Been Our Mission

From it’s very beginning back in 2000, For The Girls has been all about offering porn for women. For many years this site has sought to give straight women a safe space to enjoy porn that was positive, not sexist and that offered a woman’s perspective of sex.

But “Porn for women” can be a very nebulous term. What does it mean, exactly? What porn? Which women?

Many have dismissed the concept as fundamentally flawed. They see it as prescriptive in terms of what women want to see, or what can be presented. They say you can’t insist women only like one type of explicit material because women’s tastes are just as broad and kinky as men’s. And they’re right.

For a long time, “porn for women” was seen as softcore, romantically-based couples porn. This gave rise to the impression that women’s porn was restricted to a relatively small genre and a lot of women rejected the phrase because they felt it didn’t reflect their own desires.

At For The Girls, our idea of porn for women was much, much broader. For us, it’s basically been any porn that a woman would enjoy. The main thing was that the woman as a viewer was acknowledged. And our mission has always been to offer porn to women that we ourselves liked. As curators and creators, we took our own tastes and did our best to showcase porn that suited us. That included dirty hardcore fucking and kink as well as romantic porn. We liked to see eye contact, and good looking men, and cunnilingus, clit stimulation and afterglow. At the same time, we were also keen to be inclusive of porn and diverse tastes, including BDSM, female domination, pegging and other less-standard sex acts.

On top of that, we were determined to be inclusive with our language and reject the slut shaming and negativity that so often accompanied regular men’s porn. We wanted to celebrate sex and to have some fun with it. Language has always been an important part of how we’ve defined “porn for women”.

Of course, there is no way that For The Girls can be everything to everyone. That’s beyond the limit of any adult website. We do our best to offer the best content that we think women like us will like. And we know there are a lot of those women out there.

Feminism and Porn for Women

Feminism has always been a motivation in making porn for women. Women’s porn is a feminist act. Showing sex from a female perspective and showing female pleasure are to us, feminist. Publishing an image of a naked man with an erection was groundbreaking in 2000. And even today it breaks the taboo that insists we can’t see a penis, even when female nudity is rife (Game of Thrones, anyone?) We love cock and we think admiring male bodies with our female gaze is a feminist act. And when we received a Feminist Porn Award nomination we felt vindicated in our work.

From the beginning, both me and Jane wanted to change the way the porn industry treated their female audience. We agitated in online communities for link sites to recognize women surfers. We collaborated with other female webmasters and had long discussions about women’s porn needs and what we’d like to see. For The Girls was the ultimate expression of our desire to make an erotic space for women, one that rejected all the horrible sexist language and silly porny scenarios and instead tried to show more realism, connection and fun with sex.

Since we started, the online porn landscape has changed. An entire generation of young women have grown up watching tube sites and they have a more accepting attitude towards sex and pornography than women did in the early 2000s.

And yet, porn is still predominantly made for men and still mainly offers a male perspective and male fantasy. Sexism is still rife and the language and assumptions surrounding porn seem to be painfully unenlightened. It’s hard to be a horny, porn-loving woman, even today. Finding something that both turns on the body and yet is acceptable to the mind can be a struggle; it’s difficult to stay focused on the hot fucking when the language and ads and acts are all devoted to slut-shaming and negativity.

That’s why For The Girls remains important. Our mission is important. Women deserve their own space online where they can enjoy porn that acknowledges them as an audience, that speaks to them as women, that shows female fantasies and that understands that a female orgasm is necessary and vital.

Porn for women is what we do and we’ll do it for as long as we can.

– Ms Naughty, August 2016

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